Words of Wisdom: “You Gotta Go Blind”-Wallo267

I need to watch this Words of Wisdom clip from influencer Wallo267 every morning! Hope it touches someone who is struggling with comparison.

In the clip shared to his Instagram page, Wallo tells us all to go blind to what other people are doing. “Stop watching everybody. That’s why you’re frustrated!” he exclaims in the video. When we get caught up in watching people, we ultimately stunt our own growth and progress. We can’t see how we’re getting better because we’re too busy focused on the next person.

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This is something I still struggle with, if I’m honest. Even though I’ve come a long way, I see people doing what I do on a bigger scale and I call myself getting a little jealous and unnerved like maybe this isn’t what I’m supposed to be doing. Maybe I’m really not made for this. But, in fact, I need to put my blinders on just like horses on the racetrack and focus on my own race, not what’s going on around me. That’s a definite way to lose.

STOP WATCHING EVERYBODY!

Words Of Wisdom: “Invest In Your Dream”-Bishop T.D. Jakes

This Words of Wisdom video featuring audio from a sermon by Bishop T.D. Jakes is one that will get your life together for sure. I know it pushed me to get some things in order. I hope it motivates you today and beyond.

Entrepreneurs, influencers, artists, freelancers, and others alike—we ask for people to support us. We want people to retweet, like, share and buy our content and work on a regular basis. But, if we’re honest, sometimes we don’t put that same energy into doing our own work. That’s what this video is about.

Bishop Jakes said it so eloquently: “Do you have anything that you’re dreaming that you’re willing to be committed to enough to see it happen or are you throwing pennies in the wishing well of life wanting to receive on credit something that you’re not willing to pay for?” We want the success but it takes A LOT to get there. I’m not some mega blogger or influencer right now, but even with the successes I’ve had, it’s taken a lot of work, tears, focus and perseverance. It takes investing in yourself on a regular basis. Even when you don’t feel like it. Even in the midst of doubts and frustration.

Watch the powerful video below!

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#MondayMotivation

This #MondayMotivation quote from the late Steve Jobs came at a great time in my life. Hope it changes your perspective if you need it.

I’ve been honest about the fact I compare a lot of my life to other people and have tried to be like them. With my blog. My job. My fitness. My appearance. In a world where social media reigns supreme, it’s easy to fall in that trap. Especially when most people are only sharing the great moments of life.

This quote is a reminder that all it does is waste time. Comparing and attempting to be like other people hasn’t helped. All it’s done is knock my confidence, if I’m honest. I have to get more comfortable in who I am and what I have to offer. Life is too short to be trying to be on somebody else’s level. We all just have to work towards our own personal and professional levels and be the best we can be.

#MondayMotivation

This #MondayMotivation quote is a real one. It’s one quote that helped to change the trajectory of my life so I hope it helps you all.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. This inspirational website is meant to share positivity, but I don’t fake and act like everything is okay all of the time. Clearly, it’s not…at least for me.  Life is not all rainbows and unicorns. However, I do know that, no matter what happens, I will get through it. Whether it’s good or bad or downright tragic. Why? Because I’ve done it before. Having a negative mindset about the already negative circumstances in my life did nothing to help me. In fact, it ended up hurting me even more.

You don’t have to walk around with you head in the clouds like it’s a perfect day when it’s raining outside. BUT you can look at the positive in situations and pray and believe that better days are coming. (This is NOT for those legitimately dealing with clinical depression. Please seek pprofessional help).

If You Are Giving Your Best, You Are Giving Enough

This past weekend, Hannah Beachler made history by becoming the first African-American to win an Oscar for best film production design. It was nice to finally put a face to a design of the box office hit, Black Panther. Part of Hannah’s award speech below praised her family for their support, followed by encouraging creatives to keep pushing towards their dreams. I saved the speech after it resonated with the transition stage of life I’m embarking on.

“I did my best, and my best was good enough,” Hannah shared in her speech. How many of us can honestly say this and confidently mean it? If I’m just honest, I don’t always believe I’m doing enough. My family and friends know that I am close to a perfectionist—from my hairstyles, style of dress, or even academics and career goals. If anything appears slightly off, it’s as if the world is coming to an end when clearly that’s not the case! I am learning to not beat myself up as much and to be content in what I have or give.

Prime example: my present focus is on getting admitted to graduate school and getting a new job These processes excite me while simultaneously brings anxiety. Accepting where I am versus where I want to be is a recurring thought. I hear all the time: “Lex, you are still so young. You have your whole life ahead of you to do what you want.” This is a fact, and so I try to be a little more easygoing and not rush what takes time to blossom. God’s calling on my life is a reminder to appreciate the experiences that have led me to this present time. If something did not turn out the way it was expected to, such as a job opportunity, relationship, or friendship, I can still credit these situations to growth. Because I can say that I learned a lesson, even if at the time I didn’t like the lesson, any season of disappointment is temporary.

Additionally, don’t allow the lack of approval of others to dictate the credit you give yourself. Oftentimes, we look to our families or relationship partners or supervisors to clap for us, but what if they stopped? Or, what if their usual compliments were replaced with harsh critiques with little to no positive feedback? My dad has always taught me, “If I, as your biological father, can’t discourage you, who can?” In other words, validation of your worth is more essential than validation from others.

Hannah recognized this with the set of Black Panther, which led to success. I recognize this in my press to my dreams, which ultimately leads to success. I encourage each of you to stick to your purpose, no matter who sticks by your side and approves. You won’t be an inspiration to everyone, but look in the mirror and be proud of that person that looks back at you.

And lastly, set a standard of excellence, whatever that encompasses. I remember as a child, students in my class would compare grades on various subject tests. In hindsight, this was silly. If you earned an A, you were praised for your intelligence. If you earned a C, you weren’t praised as highly as the “A” students and ignored. Even social media platforms have become comparison tools used to measure excellence. Don’t be deceived: seeing someone advance in a line of work like yours does not make you less than. Their process isn’t yours. Keep working, and know that your best is enough.

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