B Authentic

(THIS POST IS A PART OF MY “B” SERIES WHICH I’LL DELIVER ONCE A MONTH!
CONTINUE TO B KIND. B SILLY. B INSPIRED. B IMPERFECT.)

If you’ve been reading my words and watching my thoughts on YouTube or Instagram, you know that I’m pretty open and honest about the mistakes I’ve made and the lessons I’ve learned. Why? Because I really want other people to not do the same crazy mess! I want us all to be the best that we can be. 

So this “B” post is timely because I’ve been being more consistent and disciplined with building my “brand” online, figuring out what I want to put forth and what separates me from the pack. It’s hard sometimes because you feel like you have to be like some of the other influencers out there in order to get any traction. That took me back to years past.

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Words of Wisdom: “Write Your Vision Down”-Steve Harvey

I wanted to share this clip from Steve Harvey with some Words of Wisdom about writing your life vision down.

In the clip, Steve talks about the importance of writing down your goals and the vision you have for your life. Without preaching to y’all, Steve mentions the Scripture passage Habakkuk 2:2-3 (paraphrase): “Write the vision and make it plain. So he who reads it will run to it, and even though it will tarry, wait for it. For surely it will come at an appointed time.

I’ve talked about the power of vision boards and how I used them before. Whether you do a vision board or just a list of things that you want to accomplish in your life, it’s powerful to see your goals written down in one place. For me, it’s motivating and even more encouraging when I actually knock things out. Seeing what I have accomplished and what I still want to do pushes me to go harder and do better to achieve more.

Check out Steve’s Words of Wisdom below.

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B Hungry For Your Goals

How are those New Year resolutions coming along y’all? I’m hoping that this post helps recommit to those goals!

With the passing of NBA great Kobe Bryant, everyone is discussing his skills on the court, his work with Mamba Sports Academy, his philanthropy, his multimedia company Granity Studios, etc. He was doing so much and working his tail off even after his “retirement.”

When it comes down to it, Kobe was great at what he did on and off the court because HE PUT IN THE TIME TO BE GREAT. He was committed to excellence even when he probably didn’t feel like it. Getting to practice hours before everyone else to work on his shots. Putting in the time to coach his teams. Working on his Oscar-winning short. That stuff takes time and effort. But to be great means going above and beyond the normal.

It all comes down to just how HUNGRY you are for what you want.

I find, in working with people, that many talk a big game about what they want to do and accomplish. I even have had to check myself on a few occasions for running my mouth and then not doing anything to really change my circumstances. But, if you want to do great things with your work and life, it requires a serious appetite to do well. In order to get there, you have to push yourself to do more than you thought you could. You have to (a lot of times) start early and finish late.

When you see people getting ahead or “passing you by,” it’s not always that they are more talented than you but it really comes down to how bad they want it. The fact that they’re willing to do what you don’t always want to do or believe in yourself enough to do. The fact that they take the time to work on becoming better while you rest on your talent and slack off. The fact that they just do what they feel that they are able to do while you hang back. Maybe I’m just speaking to myself, but I know somebody else has to feel that!

In order to really get to a new level, you have to develop this fight in you, this hunger. This mentality that says “I’m going to work my butt off to be the best that I can personally be. I’m going to make things happen because there is no other option for me.”

It’s not always that they are more talented than you but it really comes down to how bad they want it.

It’s that commitment, that drive, that work ethic that goes beyond what a regular person is willing to do that will get you ahead. You may have to change up your habits or your processes. You may have to make some sacrifices and difficult choices. You may not even see the light at the end of the tunnel right now and feel like all of the effort is all for naught. But trust, if what you are doing is your purpose in life, you will make it. But it’s keeping that hunger for your goals that is going to help you get there.

Words of Wisdom: “Your Talents Can Make A Difference”-Arianna Huffington

This is a personal Words of Wisdom clip for everyone today. Hopefully, this advice from Arianna Huffington and my own experience inspire someone today.

In a Super Soul Sunday episode with Oprah Winfrey, Arianna shares the story of her sister, Agapi, who did well at the Royal Academy of Dramatic Art. However, Agapi was rejected for a part she was sure she would land. However, she used her talent of acting that same day to bring joy to a busload of New Yorkers. Arianna was inspired by that story and shared it in her book, Thrive. For her, it was a story that your talent can still make a difference even if you’re not necessarily making a living from it.

I have to remind myself of this so often. I run this inspirational site and am building it up as a “brand.” But it’s so easy to get caught up in the rat race behind what that means. Drowning in analytics, worried about engagement rates to get work from other brands, etc., etc. I saw a post on social media the other day about how we are so laser-focused on becoming “brands” and “influencers” that we forget our hobbies and passions can be just that. Everything you do doesn’t have to be for money; it just simply be something you love to do.

That’s backward in this capitalistic society, I know. I’m about multiple streams of income too, y’all, but I’m not killing myself to do it. I’d rather impact people’s lives in a positive way with this site than solely focus on making money from it. That was the ultimate mission after all. So I encourage anyone struggling with the same thing today to focus on the impact of your work. If money comes, cool, but what’s most important is touching and changing lives. At least to me.

Watch Ariana share this wise advice below!

Words of Wisdom: “Face Your Challenges”-Josh Shipp

Hoping and praying that this Words of Wisdom clip from motivational speaker Josh Shipp resonates for y’all as it has for me.

Josh revealed that he was abandoned by his mom, a teen at the time of his birth, at the hospital. He became a ward of the state and bounced around from foster home to foster home. Josh was also molested as a kid and ran to food to cope, becoming obese and believing negative things that people said about him. However, he began to realize that he couldn’t run from the challenges he faced. In spite of fear and naysayers, he had to face his problems head-on to become the person that he wanted to be.

The same goes for all of us. We each have our own life story with different chapters of pain, hurt, disloyalty, etc. We can certainly wallow in it if we choose, but what good does that do? The only way to overcome is to stand tall and determine that we won’t let our past challenges drag us down. It’s a conscious decision to work through those issues (through therapy, reflection, etc.) to become better people each day.

Watch the clip below!