B Authentic

(THIS POST IS A PART OF MY “B” SERIES WHICH I’LL DELIVER ONCE A MONTH!
CONTINUE TO B KIND. B SILLY. B INSPIRED. B IMPERFECT.)

If you’ve been reading my words and watching my thoughts on YouTube or Instagram, you know that I’m pretty open and honest about the mistakes I’ve made and the lessons I’ve learned. Why? Because I really want other people to not do the same crazy mess! I want us all to be the best that we can be. 

So this “B” post is timely because I’ve been being more consistent and disciplined with building my “brand” online, figuring out what I want to put forth and what separates me from the pack. It’s hard sometimes because you feel like you have to be like some of the other influencers out there in order to get any traction. That took me back to years past.

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B Assertive When It Comes To Your Worth

(This post is a part of my “B” series which I’ll deliver once a month!
Continue to B Kind. B Silly. B Inspired. B Imperfect.)

“Know your worth and add tax.”

Like many of us, I have struggled with insecurities and low self-esteem in a variety of aspects like my looks and my career. I’ve felt like I wasn’t good enough in spite of everything that I’m doing. I even created a fun but vulnerable video to Demi Lovato‘s “I Love Me” (remixing the Don’t Rush Challenge) where I admitted that I am still learning how to fully love myself right where I am. It’s a constant journey filled with ups and downs.

I have to admit that I’m not as assertive when it comes to my worth as I thought.

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Planning Your Own Self-Review and New Objectives

If you work the typical 9-5, you are familiar with the annual employee review with a boss. The review is to speak on your wins and losses for the year and see where there is room for improvement. And, of course, the review also determines a lot of times whether you’ll see a salary increase. Then, you may have the chance to set goals and objectives you would like to achieve in the new year.

That’s how it’s laid out at my new job. Being new, I recently had a three-month review with my boss which went great. I was then told to set objectives for the upcoming year—what I would like to achieve or strive towards and how I planned to do it. I typed out my plan vigorously and sent it off to my boss for approval, ready to get to work.

As I thought about it later that day, I realized that the new year is not that far away. It’s literally right around the corner. Which means it’s almost the season for everyone to create their vision boards and setting new goals. Y’all know that I’m all for it. However, I also thought that I really need to do my own personal self-review of this year—what went well, what went bad, what I need to get better at. I need to set my own personal objectives and specific tasks to get me there.

All of this reminded me of a video from my favorite inspirational speaker, Eric Thomas. We need to not only know what we want, and work for what we want, but we also need to realize that, if we don’t get it, we have to be honest about the roles we played in that. Did you let yourself down? Did you slack off? Were you as disciplined as you could have been?

If you didn’t reach your yearly goals, you owe yourself an explanation as to why things didn’t happen and what needs to change and happen in the coming year. That’s where the personal self-review comes in. I already knew I’ve got things to work on, but when I sat down and worked through it, I had to be real. There were a few great things about this year, but there were also some goals I didn’t reach. And you know what? There was no one else that I could blame. I didn’t do the things I KNEW to do out of lack of self-discipline and fear. Not only did I need to come up with a list of goals for the new year, but I also had to come up with specific tasks AND sacrifices to get it done.

We do it for our jobs, but we owe it to ourselves to sit down and evaluate ourselves. Consider what you were able to accomplish this year, and what you didn’t. How can you do better for the coming year? What things do you need to cut out? Once you give yourself a review and set those new objectives, commit to stepping your game up and doing better!