Words of Wisdom: “You’ve Gotta Put In the Work”-Loni Love

A lot of us have heard about the Law of Attraction, essentially the belief that what you mentally focus on will happen in your life. If you think it, you will achieve it basically, which I believe to an extent. Your attitude and beliefs will shape your actions which will ultimately shape your results. 

Loni Love of daytime TV show The Real spoke on how it’s important to have action behind your positive thinking. She herself hoped for the chance to be on TV and to advance in her comedy career, but she had to be on her grind in order to get there. You won’t advance by just believing, meditating and praying that you will get that new job, or that your stats on your blog or channel will rise. All of those things are great, but you also have to put in the work!

Faith without works is dead, and dreams without grind are dead too, okay? That’s why I love this short video from Loni. Simply put, dreams don’t work unless you do!

Check out Loni’s thoughts below!

Jennifer Lawrence Visits Children’s Hospital in Louisville for the Holidays

Jennifer Lawrence is all about spreading some holiday love in her hometown of Louisville, KY, for Christmas!

As is one of her holiday traditions, the actress stopped by Norton Children’s Hospital on Christmas Eve, spending time with patients and their families, as well as staff members. “This visit has become a tradition for Lawrence each Christmas,” the hospital shared on its Instagram page. “Thank you, Jennifer! You sure do bring a smile to all!”

Norton is truly a place near and dear to Jennifer’s heart. She even donated $2 million to the hospital in 2016, creating the Jennifer Lawrence Foundation Cardiac Intensive Care Unit. I’m sure all of these families and the staff appreciated her yearly visit, as she posed for photos and gave hugs to everyone. Little things like that really matter, especially during the holidays!

Check out some pics below!

 

#GreatRead: Year of Yes – Shonda Rhimes

Around this time last year, I started reading a book that truly shaped my 2017—Year of YesHow to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun, and Be Your Own Person by writer and producer extraordinaire Shonda Rhimes! Especially as we’re getting ready to enter in another new year, I thought it was perfect to share this great read with you guys if you haven’t checked it out yet!

Unless you’ve seriously been living under a rock, you’ve definitely heard the name Shonda Rhimes before. Especially those of us glued to our TVs for another crazy night of TGIT (Thank God It’s Thursday) with Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal, and How to Get Away with Murder. Shonda created two out of three of these and serves as producer! She’s got a lot more on her list, too (check her credentials!).

Yet, with all of her fame and glory, Shonda truly liked to stay behind the scenes. She worked and spent time with her family. That’s…pretty much it. In reading the book, I found that she was an introvert like me, who stayed in her head to make up these wild stories we love so much. She didn’t go out to many events or do many interviews or have any fun…until the year that she details in this book.

Shonda’s own journey on her Year of Yes in 2014 started with a simple but staggering statement from her older sister Delorse in Thanksgiving 2013. After hearing Shonda go on and on about all the events she’d been invited to that she had no intention of going to (out of “busyness” but really fear), her big sis dropped a line that shattered Shonda’s entire mindset. “You never say yes to anything,” Delorse told her. Delorse then proceeded to tell her little sister all about how Shonda always works, but never makes time for fun anymore.

At first, Shonda angrily tried to shake off her sister’s words. After all, declining all of these big events made perfect sense for her. She literally runs her own magical TV land (Shondaland to be exact), and she’s also a single mom to three girls. In her own words, she’s literally “bringing home the bacon AND frying it up in the pan.” The lady is a BOSS, okay?

But Shonda also knew that she had grown comfortable in being behind the scenes. Partly out of necessity. Mostly out of fear. So she decided to make 2014 the year she said yes to doing all of the things that scared her. Things like giving  the commencement address at her alma mater, Dartmouth College, or going on Jimmy Kimmel for a live TV interview! In this year, she learned to better assert herself and her choices unapologetically, while taking better care of her health and her kids. She learned to enjoy the life she has, and has become all the better for it.

And then Shonda put all the amazing lessons she learned in this book to share with all of us!

Shonda Rhimes is ME. Well, I don’t run my own shows or anything near what she does, but you get my point. Shonda Rhimes is a lot of us. We become consumed in work, or being caregivers to our loved ones, or maybe, like me, consumed with social anxiety that, a lot of times, we literally can’t bring ourselves to enjoy the life we’ve been blessed with. We can’t bring ourselves to try new things or take risks out of fear.

This book forced me to go outside of my comfort zone in 2017, going after opportunities and going places that I normally wouldn’t. And you know what? My 2017 was GREAT. I was finally able to move out on my own with a nice place all to myself just like I wanted. I stepped up my game and asked for what I wanted when it came to my writing career, which worked out well. And I created this site, turning away from what I thought I wanted with my entertainment blog, and realizing that maybe this is my life purpose. Using my gift of words to inspire and uplift others, as well as myself. All because I stopped letting fear get in the way all of the time.

Now, I’m not completely fearless. I still back down from time to time, BUT I’ve gotten a lot better at going after the things that I want and the opportunities I have. And it was partly because of this book! I’m so grateful Shonda decided to open up to the world, because her story truly helped me to move forward in my own life. So I encourage everyone to check it out, and go after everything they want in 2018!

Inspirational Jam: “Get Up”-Mary Mary

Get up…don’t sit there! Get up…if you wanna get there. Clocks don’t stop and time won’t wait…”

                                        —Mary Mary

Mary Mary came through with this Inspirational Jam back in 2008, and it’s still a hit that I love to play to get my tail into gear!

Get Up” was featured on the sister duo’s fourth album, The Sound, and ended up winning a Grammy for Best Gospel Performance! The contagiously upbeat song will motivate you, even first thing in the morning, to get up and get moving! There’s only 24 hours in a day, so we have to get going and make each moment count for something. That’s what this song is all about.

So whether you’re getting an early morning workout, getting ahead of the game on your side hustle, or getting stuff done around the house, this song definitely will get your day started on the right track!

 

Words of Wisdom: “Failure Is Not Trying”-Sara Blakely

Had to share these great Words of Wisdom from Spanx founder and CEO Sara Blakely today!

Growing up, Sara’s father celebrated his children’s failures, knowing that failure isn’t in the rejections or missed marks. Failure is really just not trying! And that helped to redefine Sara’s outlook on failure from an early age. Yeah, she might find that she’s horrible at some things, but she could always at least say she tried. Sara no longer looked at the idea of failure as a bad thing, but, instead, as a learning experience. “Once you redefine that for yourself and realize the failure is just not trying, then life opens up to your in many ways,” Sara revealed. 

Check out Sara’s powerful message below!

Life is filled with failures. There will be so many times things don’t go the way you planned in your business or building your brand. There will be a lot of rejections or no responses. However, the real failure comes when you don’t even attempt something out of the fear of failing! A lot of people don’t take risks or go after their true dream out of fear. It’s understandable, but where does that get you? That only keeps you stuck right where you are!

So commit yourself to simply trying. Go after that dream. Start that business. Re-brand. Apply for that job. Try recording that podcast. Audition for that role. Whatever it is you want to do, go for it! You never know where you’ll end up. Nothing beats a failure but a try!