Words of Wisdom: “Failure Is Not Trying”-Sara Blakely

Had to share these great Words of Wisdom from Spanx founder and CEO Sara Blakely today!

Growing up, Sara’s father celebrated his children’s failures, knowing that failure isn’t in the rejections or missed marks. Failure is really just not trying! And that helped to redefine Sara’s outlook on failure from an early age. Yeah, she might find that she’s horrible at some things, but she could always at least say she tried. Sara no longer looked at the idea of failure as a bad thing, but, instead, as a learning experience. “Once you redefine that for yourself and realize the failure is just not trying, then life opens up to your in many ways,” Sara revealed. 

Check out Sara’s powerful message below!

Life is filled with failures. There will be so many times things don’t go the way you planned in your business or building your brand. There will be a lot of rejections or no responses. However, the real failure comes when you don’t even attempt something out of the fear of failing! A lot of people don’t take risks or go after their true dream out of fear. It’s understandable, but where does that get you? That only keeps you stuck right where you are!

So commit yourself to simply trying. Go after that dream. Start that business. Re-brand. Apply for that job. Try recording that podcast. Audition for that role. Whatever it is you want to do, go for it! You never know where you’ll end up. Nothing beats a failure but a try!


Words of Wisdom: “Some People Have an Expiration Date”-La La Anthony

Definitely had to share these Words of Wisdom from La La Anthony today1

In an interview, the actress and TV host admitted a strong truth that some of us know but don’t always apply. “A lot of us don’t realize that there are people in our lives that come with an expiration date,” La La stated. “Everyone’s not meant to be in our lives forever.” 

And it’s real. Everybody who started off with you aren’t going to (and may not deserve to) continue with you on your journey. Not everyone’s ready. Not everyone’s worthy. And you have to know who to cut off and when.

Check out La La’s wise words below!


[ctt template=”9″ link=”97hpq” via=”no” ]Everybody who started off with you aren’t going to (and may not deserve to) continue with you on your journey.[/ctt]

Y’all already know that I stress quality over quantity when it comes to the people in my life. That’s why my circle is so small. It’s not always the easiest thing to do to let people go, but it’s gotten easier to peep who’s for me and who’s really not. I have nothing against those who aren’t really in my corner, but there was no point in keeping “fair-weather” friends around. I’m going to higher heights, and I only want great people around me. 

Like I’ve said previously, who you invite and keep in your space is ALL. YOUR. CHOICE. You can’t keep complaining about all the negativity a person is bringing into your life, and about how they’re always dragging you down…when you’re the one allowing them to stay! As we get ready to go into a new year, it’s time to re-evaluate who needs to be in your circle, and who you need to let go of. 

Words of Wisdom: “Believe in Yourself”-Trent Shelton

I wanted to share this amazing video from motivational speaker Trent Shelton today, because it really spoke to me and reminded me of a harsh reality. You truly do have to believe in yourself, even when others don’t. 

As Trent speaks on in his Instagram video below, none of us are entitled to anybody’s help or support. I don’t care if it’s from your family, your employer, the people in your hometown, whoever. Nobody HAS to help you. You shouldn’t be mad it, and you definitely shouldn’t wait around for them to! “Never postpone your vision waiting on help,” Trent says in the video. “Educate yourself to elevate your life.” 

Watch Trent deliver this major message below…and read that caption!

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Listen, as real as I can put it. This world doesn’t owe you nothing. People don’t have to support you. People don’t have to believe in you. People don’t have to give you opportunities. People don’t have to give you a thing. Stop thinking just because you think you deserve it, people are going to reward it. Just because you feel entitlement to it, people are going to give it. It don't work like that. What works? Is you putting in the work. Don’t waste your life waiting on somebody to do something for your life. If you want something to happen for your life, you got to make it happen. Ain’t nobody going to do for you what you won’t do for yourself. Create the opportunities that they won’t give you. Create your own platform so you won’t have to depend on theirs. Become so great at what you do, that they need you way more than you need them. Listen, Stop complaining about what people aren’t doing for you, and start focusing on what you can do for yourself. That’s how you’ll make something happen for your life. There’s a reason why your vision is yours and not theirs. Nobody is going to care about it or should care about it like you do. Straight up. #RehabTime #TrentShelton . . . . . #lifestyles #staystrong #keepgoing #staypositive #daybyday #keepfighting #gettingthroughit #quotes #quoteoftheday #quote #positive #wisdom #happiness #selflove #inspirationalquotes #spirituality #instaquote #enlightment #spiritual #qotd #mindfulness #gratitude #conciousness #words #follow4follow #like4like #goodvibes #killit

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[ctt template=”9″ link=”lb35O” via=”no” ]You truly do have to believe in yourself, even when others don’t. [/ctt]

Now, I’ve been blessed to have a good amount of support for what I do and what I plan to do when it comes to this site and my writing in general.  But a major lesson that I had to learn (and am still learning in some aspects) is that nobody HAS to support me. Nobody has to make magic happen for me or give me opportunities to help elevate my life. When you expect that, eight times out of 10, you’ll be sorely disappointed. Nobody has to automatically show me love, which is why I’m forever grateful for those that do. In the end, it’s up to ME to make something happen in my life. It’s up to ME to work hard and keep the faith, trusting that God will be the One to reward my efforts. Because if I’m waiting on people down here to do it…pshhh I’ll forever be up a creek without a paddle. 

Just because you’re good, or even great, at what you do, doesn’t mean that people are automatically going to give you a chance. You’re not just entitled to it either. You have to believe in yourself and keep pushing for higher heights in spite of A LOT. In spite of other people not understanding your vision. In spite of being rejected from opportunities that you truly deserved. In spite of people not supporting you at the level you think they should. Keep pushing through regardless, knowing that your vision and your true support will come soon!

Words of Wisdom: “Trust Your Gut Instinct” -Lucy Hale

Lucy Hale‘s rise to fame definitely came with her starring role on Freeform’s Pretty Little Liars, but she recently opened up about how she almost didn’t take it on!

In this Words of Wisdom video, Lucy revealed that she was up for PLL and also another project, but trusted her instinct and went with what she believed was the most interesting project—Pretty Little Liars! “People can help you to make a decision, but, at the end of the day, you’re left with yourself,” the actress stated. “And I think that that inner voice that you have is the most important.” I bet fans of the show couldn’t even imagine anyone else as Aria Montgomery…I know I can’t. But it was Lucy’s gut that told her that PLL was the show for her.

Check out her short interview below…


[ctt template=”9″ link=”27eu7″ vi[ctt template=”9″ link=”fLw72″ via=”no” ]”People can help you to make a decision, but, at the end of the day, you’re left with yourself. And I think that that inner voice that you have is the strongest and most important.” -Lucy Hale [/ctt]

It’s easy to get distracted by outside voices or circumstances. Maybe everyone around you is telling you to go one way, but your gut is telling you to go another. Maybe the money is in one place, but your heart wants something else. Maybe logic is saying that you should be in a certain spot, but you can’t help but wonder what would happen if you moved elsewhere. When it comes down to it, we all should listen to our instincts when it comes to making moves in our personal lives and our careers. That gut instinct often will direct you in the right path. Thankfully, Lucy listened to hers!

Words of Wisdom: “Focus on Happiness”-Zendaya

Zendaya is a positive young woman in this industry, very wise beyond her 21 years!

In a clip with Access Hollywood, the actress and singer opened up about the best piece of advice she’s ever gotten. Zendaya revealed that people should focus on happiness, instead of money or other material things. “There are so many people in this industry or just in life in general that are going through their days and may have everything that they ever want, but they’re not happy, ” Zendaya said. In fact, she’s so in tune with that idea, that, every day, she strives to make at least one person happy through kind words or deeds!

Watch below!

It’s a special message that I want to stick with you all, as I try to make sure it stays in the forefront of my mind as well. So often, we get caught up in the rat race, right? Trying to get ahead and stay ahead in whatever it is that we’re doing. Thinking about getting money and clothes and shoes (which are all nice, don’t get me wrong!). That’s all well and good, but happiness on the inside is what matter most. You could have it all, with no peace and joy inside you. In whatever you do, choose things that make you happy, instead of just doing something for money and material things that are fleeting.