The Struggles of Living Alone During Quarantine

The coronavirus is taking its toll on the world. 

I don’t complain often because there are people dying of COVID alone across the world and their families are left to grieve without getting to say proper goodbyes. There are essential workers getting paid dust and people still struggling to pay bills due to losing jobs or side hustles. There are parents struggling to telework while keeping their kids educated and entertained at home (if this hasn’t proven that teachers deserve way more money and support, I honestly don’t know what will). There are way bigger issues to worry about, I know. 

At this point, it’s been almost 4 months since I’ve been in quarantine. My last day of working in the office was March 13 before my organization went on full telework. I don’t go out really other than to go to the store and the occasional visit to my immediate family. I was good with that at first. The first few months were completely fine. I’ve enjoyed working from home (and still do, honestly). Netflix and I had an amazing relationship already, and then add Disney+ to the mix? BLISS. I got to take more naps and virtual events were fun…for a while. 

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B Authentic

(THIS POST IS A PART OF MY “B” SERIES WHICH I’LL DELIVER ONCE A MONTH!
CONTINUE TO B KIND. B SILLY. B INSPIRED. B IMPERFECT.)

If you’ve been reading my words and watching my thoughts on YouTube or Instagram, you know that I’m pretty open and honest about the mistakes I’ve made and the lessons I’ve learned. Why? Because I really want other people to not do the same crazy mess! I want us all to be the best that we can be. 

So this “B” post is timely because I’ve been being more consistent and disciplined with building my “brand” online, figuring out what I want to put forth and what separates me from the pack. It’s hard sometimes because you feel like you have to be like some of the other influencers out there in order to get any traction. That took me back to years past.

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B Assertive When It Comes To Your Worth

(This post is a part of my “B” series which I’ll deliver once a month!
Continue to B Kind. B Silly. B Inspired. B Imperfect.)

“Know your worth and add tax.”

Like many of us, I have struggled with insecurities and low self-esteem in a variety of aspects like my looks and my career. I’ve felt like I wasn’t good enough in spite of everything that I’m doing. I even created a fun but vulnerable video to Demi Lovato‘s “I Love Me” (remixing the Don’t Rush Challenge) where I admitted that I am still learning how to fully love myself right where I am. It’s a constant journey filled with ups and downs.

I have to admit that I’m not as assertive when it comes to my worth as I thought.

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#MondayMotivation

Hey y’all! Here’s a #MondayMotivation quote that I hope inspires you to go after your dreams…even if there’s already someone doing what you do.

At this point, there aren’t too many fields or opportunities left untapped. Everyone is an entrepreneur, influencer, blogger, motivational speaker, online comedian, etc, etc. these days. I’ll admit that that used to intimidate me and even stop me from doing the things I’ve been called to do. 

Even though these fields may seem “oversaturated,” I began to realize that everyone has a unique flair that they bring to the table. No one story or background is exactly the same and there are viewers, readers and supporters out there for everyone. So I determined that I wouldn’t stop doing what I love because other people are trying their hand at it. There’s room out here for everybody!

What would you do or work on if you weren’t intimidated by what other people have going on? 

B Hungry For Your Goals

How are those New Year resolutions coming along y’all? I’m hoping that this post helps recommit to those goals!

With the passing of NBA great Kobe Bryant, everyone is discussing his skills on the court, his work with Mamba Sports Academy, his philanthropy, his multimedia company Granity Studios, etc. He was doing so much and working his tail off even after his “retirement.”

When it comes down to it, Kobe was great at what he did on and off the court because HE PUT IN THE TIME TO BE GREAT. He was committed to excellence even when he probably didn’t feel like it. Getting to practice hours before everyone else to work on his shots. Putting in the time to coach his teams. Working on his Oscar-winning short. That stuff takes time and effort. But to be great means going above and beyond the normal.

It all comes down to just how HUNGRY you are for what you want.

I find, in working with people, that many talk a big game about what they want to do and accomplish. I even have had to check myself on a few occasions for running my mouth and then not doing anything to really change my circumstances. But, if you want to do great things with your work and life, it requires a serious appetite to do well. In order to get there, you have to push yourself to do more than you thought you could. You have to (a lot of times) start early and finish late.

When you see people getting ahead or “passing you by,” it’s not always that they are more talented than you but it really comes down to how bad they want it. The fact that they’re willing to do what you don’t always want to do or believe in yourself enough to do. The fact that they take the time to work on becoming better while you rest on your talent and slack off. The fact that they just do what they feel that they are able to do while you hang back. Maybe I’m just speaking to myself, but I know somebody else has to feel that!

In order to really get to a new level, you have to develop this fight in you, this hunger. This mentality that says “I’m going to work my butt off to be the best that I can personally be. I’m going to make things happen because there is no other option for me.”

It’s not always that they are more talented than you but it really comes down to how bad they want it.

It’s that commitment, that drive, that work ethic that goes beyond what a regular person is willing to do that will get you ahead. You may have to change up your habits or your processes. You may have to make some sacrifices and difficult choices. You may not even see the light at the end of the tunnel right now and feel like all of the effort is all for naught. But trust, if what you are doing is your purpose in life, you will make it. But it’s keeping that hunger for your goals that is going to help you get there.