(THIS POST IS A PART OF MY “B” SERIES WHICH I’LL DELIVER ONCE A MONTH!
CONTINUE TO B KIND. B SILLY. B INSPIRED. B IMPERFECT.)
“A life of significance is about serving those who need your gifts, your leadership, and your purpose.”
I’ve opened up multiple times about the fact that I struggle with comparison. Many of us do, if we’re honest. It ultimately ends up hurting us because, based on other people’s highlight reels, we feel that nothing we achieved or are working towards is enough.
I know this but still I struggle. So much so, that I’ve had to delete and ignore social media at times, outside of scheduling posts for Imperfectly B (which, as a writer and rising microinfluencer, is nearly IMPOSSIBLE to do). I have obsessed over having the “right look” and content for my Instagram and website in my quest to snag sponsorship deals, as well as a good amount of engagement (likes, retweets, comments) across all platforms to be appealing. I wanted to be a big name in my field, thinking that it would mean I could reach more people, when really, it was about selfish ambition. I had to check myself.
I was reminded of something recently, though…
You really don’t have to have all of that to be impactful.
Meaning that your story and your work can resonate with people at any level, and that’s what is most important.
Over the past three years of running this site, I have gotten multiple messages about how my sharing my life lessons and the other positive content on this site has motivated different people to make changes in their own lives. Which was a part of my original purpose in starting Imperfectly B. I realize, and have to continually remember, that numbers may be important to my business but that they can’t be more important than my purpose.
I’ve also realized that, sometimes, it may not even be your destiny to some big-time, critically-acclaimed person out here. Like the late great Tupac Shakur once said, I may NOT be the one to change the world, make some big movement or have international acclaim, but I can use my thoughts and words to spark that brain that will.
That applies to you, too! You may get caught up in the rat race of achieving milestones, deals, or whatever else. But how are you and your work truly impacting others? Corny maybe, but are you bringing them value? Are you helping someone become better or uplifting them in some way? Are you presenting the true you because you can stand in who you are as you navigate this life? That’s what this life is truly about.
Your legacy when you leave this earth is NOT going to be how many followers you had or how many people visited your site. It’s not even going to necessarily be how many people bought your products or services. It’s going to be how you were able to help people along the way. That’s true greatness.
Now, I’m not going to act like making money isn’t important. We all have bills out here! While I still have financial goals, I can’t, or I should say I refuse, to put those over who I am growing to be as a person and the type of content I want to put out. I can’t try to become other people and lose my authenticity chasing checks. Because, if I make it big and lose myself in the process, what was it all for? So, what do I do? I continue doing the work on myself and my content. I continue to improve where I need to in order to reach the goals I have for myself, but I remember that my journey is my own and that I’m still doing great work.
Purpose > paychecks to me. And I mean that.
Ahhh…just my regular ramblings! But, if you understand where I am coming from, share a bit of your story in the comments! I’d love to chat with you.