Hoping that these Words of Wisdom from actress Ilfenesh Hadera reach people who have problems with saying yes to everything. The problem with that is that it often causes undue stress and even resentment.
In this clip, the actress expressed that she’s very selective about what she does with her time. “I have gotten really good about being very particular about where I spend my time and who I spend my time with,” Ilfenesh explained in the clip. “And that, to me, means saying no a lot and being comfortable with saying no.” She then goes on to say that we need to be able to distinguish what is going to actually help with stepping out of our comfort zone to create growth and what is going to cause undue stress. And, whew, I FELT THAT.
I used to say yes to EVERYTHING people asked me to do, knowing good and well that it was only going to add unnecessary stress or take away time for me to recharge. Though I acknowledge places where I still need to try to step past my comfort zone, I know now that it’s okay to say no to certain things or people where you shouldn’t waste your energy. In fact, it’s necessary for your own personal growth and mental state.
Watch Ilfenesh’s powerful Words of Wisdom below.