My dad and I are A LOT alike. When we zero in on our goals and tasks, we get laser-focused. When we’re serious, we don’t want to talk or joke around. We just want to grind it out, get the job done, and let the results speak for themselves.
In seeing him work, what inspires me is that my dad doesn’t focus on what’s going on around him, or what other people are doing. He knows his own sales goals and also knows that he has a family to take care of. He literally can’t get caught up in those kinds of distractions. I really get that now being on my own.
That’s where we have differed. See, what has often tripped me up so often, especially after college, is comparing myself to others. Between social media and real-life meetups, I often see people getting new jobs and cars, getting married, and having babies. Ahhh…the sweet life. Or so I imagined. I would secretly become bitter and jealous of other people, wondering, “Why not me?” I began to doubt myself and lose faith in my life’s purpose and goals. I was really lost for a long time.
The thing is, you never know what people are going through behind the scenes. Not too many people post about the bad they’ve gone through to get to the good. And, even if other people are living the good life, why should you get to be envious of that? You don’t know what they went through and overcame to get to that level of their lives. I know my journey hasn’t been all that pretty, and I’m just really starting.
There’s a saying: “Be too busy working on your own grass to worry if anyone else’s is greener.” That was my problem. I was paying way too much attention to what other people had going on that it completely made me forget about myself. I had to learn that I needed to literally mind my own business and worry about my own grass. Between a full-time job, this site, blogging, and other stuff, I have enough on my own plate. And I also have enough blessings of my own!
Not only was I being distracted from doing what I needed to do for myself, I was also losing sight of the opportunities and blessings I already had. It wasn’t that my life wasn’t good, but seeing what other people had made me unsatisfied. Comparing will do that too. I learned to be grateful for what I already have and to trust God for what I needed in my own life, apart from just what others had.
When I finally let go of that ugly habit of comparison and even uglier attitude of bitterness, doors began to open. Prayers were answered. Blessings rained down. And I was much happier. It was like this huge burden was lifted from my back, and I could genuinely be happy for other people and their accomplishments. And, if ever comparison tries to rear its ugly head, I go missing from social media and do the following:
When you really focus on the great things that have already happened for you, you can’t help but be grateful.
Trust In The Timing of Life.
You also have to know that your journey is your own. Any delays do NOT mean things will never happen for you. Life takes you on a crazy ride to ultimately prepare you for what you asked for in the first place!
If you’re not quite where you want to be, or even if you just want to grow, focus on getting better! Learn a new skill. Try a new venture. Don’t just stay where you are. Not only will that distract you from what others are doing, it will help to propel you to new heights!